Sex, Shame, and DBT with Kailey Larson

Kailey Larson is a Holistic Sex Educator completing her certification at the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. It was through this program that I heard her presentation, “Be In The Now: Sex, Shame, & DBT”. Kailey has taken the knowledge from 10 years of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy to create a toolbox of skills that she is offering anyone who is ready to move on from shame and anxiety. You can find her on Instagram @KaileyDelayne.

We have all grown up in a culture that shames folx for their bodies and their sexuality. Last month I replayed a popular episode with Dr. Don. He talked about the sources of shame and how it affects us and the larger culture. Reprograming these limiting messages takes time and effort, but there are specific things you can DO when shame rears its ugly head. In this culture, we are often shamed for any perceived difference whether that is orientation, identity, ability level, skin color… the list goes on. We don’t have to accept those messages of shame but the work to refuse them and counter their effects is ongoing. Kailey shares some tools in this episode.

Here is a simple explanation of DBT: https://cogbtherapy.com/cbt-blog/mindfulness-in-dbt

If you have experienced sexual violence and have PTSD, please reach out to a therapist before using these techniques. AASECT (Referral Directory | AASECT:: American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists), Psychology Today also has a referral list (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists). Here are some hotline services recommended by RAIIN: Consulting Services at RAINN | RAINN