Touching for Your Own Interest

We may not have movie star bodies or the sex drive of a twenty-year-old, but WE get to decide what sensuality and sexuality mean to us at any given moment. Our desires and our drive are going to fluctuate- always. The best thing we can do is to lean to ignore the busy thoughts bouncing around in our heads. This month on the podcast I talk about a tool we can use to quiet our minds and return to the sensations of the body. Touching for your own interest is not the same thing as being selfish. Listen to this episode to learn why.

This month I’m thinking a lot about empowerment. Chronic conditions can rob us of confidence and self-worth professionally, personally, and sexually. Those demons arise from within us and from the society that we live in. It’s hard to feel like a badass when fatigue has nailed you to the floor. It’s a struggle to feel sexy when you live in a culture that cringes at your physical presence or simply looks past you searching for something else to focus on, some vision that doesn’t remind them of the frailty of life as a crippled person does.

I get it. I’m bombarded with internal and external negative messaging too. I can only encourage you to seek out those who uplift you and see you not as a fragile form hobbling along but as a person with battle scars that have made you stronger, yet fill you with humility and compassion for those that don’t fit the “normal” mold. The fact is that normal is an irrelevant concept when it comes to bodies and sexuality. Alfred Kinsey conducted massive quantitative research in the mid-1900s; one of his greatest contributions was proving that there is no “normal.” Their data concluded that up to 25% of males are at the “extreme ends” of sexual behavior. One can’t just count the middle 50% as “normal” when there is another 50% that is one extreme or the other. Duh. So, flush that idea of normal down the toilet like it’s a memo from the Trump administration.

Listen to this episode and join us on September 20th at 5 PM pacific time for a live Q&A. You can ask questions, share your thoughts and experiences about the “touching for interest” exercise, and we can try out the three-minute game.